Attachment theory has had quite a journey. Developed by John Bowlby in the mid-twentieth century to describe how early bonds with caregivers shape a child's sense of safety in the world, it was later extended by researchers Mary Ainsworth and Mary Main into a framework that has now found its way onto every relationship podcast and first-date conversation. You have almost certainly heard the terms: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised. You may well have already decided whic

Have you ever found yourself completely consumed by thoughts of another person? Not just enjoying someone's company or hoping a relationship might go somewhere, but thinking about them almost constantly, replaying conversations, and feeling your whole mood shift depending on whether they noticed you that day. If that sounds familiar, there is a word for what you experienced. It is called limerence. What is limerence? The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in her 1

red abstract shapes layered over one another, representing the idea of red flags as subjective and open to interpretation rather than fixed. We've all heard about red flags. Dating culture is full of them. A quick scroll through social media will offer you a near-endless checklist: the way someone texts, how quickly they introduce you to their friends, whether they still follow their ex online. Flag this. Avoid that. But here's a question worth sitting with: whose red flags a

An overloaded car packed full of belongings, representing the idea of asking one relationship to carry more weight than it can hold - are we asking too much? There's a particular kind of loneliness that settles into a relationship: the loneliness of feeling unseen by the one person who's supposed to know you best. It's one of the most painful experiences a couple can have, and it's becoming increasingly common. But why? Many of the couples I work with are committed, caring, a