Most people who come to therapy carrying shame about their sexuality have, at some point, wondered what is wrong with them. The answer, in almost every case, is nothing. What they are carrying is not evidence of something broken, but the accumulated weight of messages absorbed from family, culture, and a broader world that has historically had a great deal to say about which desires are acceptable and which are not. Where sexual shame comes from Sexual shame is rarely somethi

There is a particular kind of loneliness that can settle into a relationship when one partner wants more sex, or different sex, than the other. It rarely gets talked about directly, even in therapy, even between people who love each other and communicate well about almost everything else. This is desire discrepancy, and it is one of the most common issues couples bring to therapy. You are not unusual, and you are not failing. What desire discrepancy actually means Desire disc

Diverse group of people smiling Most of us were never taught how to talk about desire. We were taught, in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, strict relationship structures and that wanting someone outside of our relationship was something to hide, feel ashamed of, or simply ignore. But what if the conversation itself — however uncomfortable — could actually bring you closer to your partner? Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is an umbrella term for relationship structures where all partn

Understanding a compassionate, evidence‑based approach to intimacy and wellbeing Psychosexual therapy is a specialist form of therapeutic support designed to help individuals and couples explore difficulties related to intimacy, desire and connection in a safe, non‑judgemental space. Although it’s often misunderstood, psychosexual therapy is not about explicit content or instruction, though this may play a part. Instead, it focuses on the emotional, relational and psychologic

By an integrative therapist supporting individuals and couples in cultivating intimacy, trust and understanding Differences in desire or preferences are far more common in relationships than many people realise. Yet when you’re the couple experiencing it, it can feel deeply personal — even frightening. I often hear clients say things like: “We must be incompatible,” or “This means something is wrong with one of us.” In reality, desire is shaped by a rich mixture of biology,