Most people who come to therapy carrying shame about their sexuality have, at some point, wondered what is wrong with them. The answer, in almost every case, is nothing. What they are carrying is not evidence of something broken, but the accumulated weight of messages absorbed from family, culture, and a broader world that has historically had a great deal to say about which desires are acceptable and which are not. Where sexual shame comes from Sexual shame is rarely somethi

There is a particular kind of loneliness that can settle into a relationship when one partner wants more sex, or different sex, than the other. It rarely gets talked about directly, even in therapy, even between people who love each other and communicate well about almost everything else. This is desire discrepancy, and it is one of the most common issues couples bring to therapy. You are not unusual, and you are not failing. What desire discrepancy actually means Desire disc