There is a particular kind of grief that doesn't get much space in the conversations around trans experience. Not the grief of loss that others can see and name, but something quieter and harder to hold: the grief of wanting something for yourself that you cannot have, or cannot have yet. This is not a grief that comes with condolence cards. There is no ritual for it. And because it sits alongside an identity that is already so often contested and debated, many trans people f