Attachment theory has had quite a journey. Developed by John Bowlby in the mid-twentieth century to describe how early bonds with caregivers shape a child's sense of safety in the world, it was later extended by researchers Mary Ainsworth and Mary Main into a framework that has now found its way onto every relationship podcast and first-date conversation. You have almost certainly heard the terms: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised. You may well have already decided whic

An overloaded car packed full of belongings, representing the idea of asking one relationship to carry more weight than it can hold - are we asking too much? There's a particular kind of loneliness that settles into a relationship: the loneliness of feeling unseen by the one person who's supposed to know you best. It's one of the most painful experiences a couple can have, and it's becoming increasingly common. But why? Many of the couples I work with are committed, caring, a