Helping people heal and find themselves again
I’m an experienced counsellor who can help you find your way when things are difficult.
Sometimes things happen in our lives that make us feel broken or as if we’ve lost our sense of who we are. And sometimes it can be hard to find our way back from that.
Counselling is focussed on your emotional journey, with your feelings at the heart of it. And sometimes we need to talk to someone who just gets it. And can help carry it until we feel strong enough to do so on our own.
If that’s what you feel you need, please look through this website to see if I can help.
I started counselling to help people through difficult points in their lives and the more I worked, the more I realised the value of being supported in this way, especially at points where it can feel very lonely to be where you are.I work with individuals and couples who are experiencing emotional challenges and help them find their own way forward, supporting them through the process.
My own life experiences meant I was especially interested in issues of identity, particularly after a relationship break up, around race and culture, and around supporting a child as a carer. But these were also areas in which there did not seem to be a lot of help available, and I decided to focus my training and practice to change that. And I’m passionate about doing so.
I work in a way that will always keep you at the heart of the process, and the work we do will be guided by your choices and your needs. It is hugely important to say that at the outset. But although everyone is different and your own thoughts and feelings are unique, sometimes it can help to express these to someone who has an understanding of where you’re starting from. And I may be able to help with that.
Relationship Break Downs
When a relationship breaks down it can feel overwhelming to come to terms with what has happened, to deal with our loss and to define who we are without the other person all at the same time.
I can support you through this and help you find your way forward in the way that works best for you.
Together we can explore what is going on for you and help you work towards acceptance and healing.
The current events in our society are throwing up questions for many of us. Who are we in this in-between space? How can we reconcile so many conflicting feelings around this? How can we understand them?
I can help by creating a space in which you feel safe to explore these questions. In which you can recognise and express what is happening for you in a changing and sometimes frightening world and to identify and accept who you are and who you want to be, even when these feel conflicted.
I realise there are aspects of racial community which can be difficult to talk about. We can feel we are betraying our culture or ourselves by doing so. That is why I will always emphasise the safety of this space and of you within it. It can be easier to talk about things with someone who understands and has the appropriate training and experience. I am happy to discuss specific aspects of this with you.
Caring for a child with a medical condition
This is hard. It can be overwhelming to process what is happening for your child and for you. Often we have to place so much emphasis on the practical learning that it is difficult to process the emotions behind the diagnosis.
I can help you explore these and support you through what is, frankly, a horrible time. I’m passionate about providing this to other people because I know from personal experience how difficult it is, how lost you can feel and how lonely it can be. This is very much your journey, with your feelings and goals at the heart of it, but talking to someone who understands, who can converse in the new medical language which takes over your life, and who can guide you towards an acceptance of a new normal can help.
Sometimes, for whatever reason, it can be difficult to meet face to face, particularly at the moment, so I offer online sessions via Zoom. These are slightly different in that I will need to speak to you about your circumstances and whether we are able to do this in a secure location of emotional safety. Please contact me for further information and with any specific questions.
It can be difficult to see outside ourselves and this presents challenges when we are trying to make a relationship work, so it can be vital to have an outside form of support to help you through. I work with couples who are encountering relationship difficulties, such as after an infidelity or bereavement or the grind of daily life, particularly in an uncertain world. This means working with both of you and finding a way forward that works for you as a couple. Sessions are normally held with both of you, although this will depend on your needs and goals.
Frequently Asked Questions
Below you’ll find answers to some of the more common questions I’ve received. If you feel like you didn’t find the answer you were looking for, feel free to contact me for more information.
How much do you charge?
I offer a free initial telephone assessment to determine what you are looking for and whether I am the right therapist for you. Sessions are then £40 for individuals or £50 for a couple for a 50 minute session payable in advance. I take payment by bank transfer and can forward you details on request.
How do I make an appointment?
You can contact me using the contact form or call me on 07950 797427 but may need to leave a voicemail. I will aim to get back to you within 48 hours to discuss your requirements and, if you would like to proceed, to agree a time and date that works for us.
How does online counselling work?
I offer online sessions via Zoom, a free downloadable secure programme. I will send you a link for a meeting at an agreed time and clicking onto it will take you straight into the session. Before we do this, however, I will need to speak with you to ensure you are in a space in which we can maintain confidentiality and emotional safety.
Is counselling confidential?
Confidentiality is hugely important in therapy and I take it very seriously. There are, however, some exceptions to maintaining confidentiality, which are mostly focused around safeguarding. I will discuss these in detail with you during our first session.
When are you available?
This is a difficult one as it does, of course, depend on my current clients, but also on whether you would like face to face sessions or online ones which are slightly more flexible. I also work in the evenings and some Saturdays. Please contact me to discuss this further.
How many sessions will I need?
This is completely dependent on you - on your goals and what you want to achieve in the counselling process. Some clients choose a few weeks and some a few months. For others it is an ongoing part of their self-care. It is a process as individual as you are, but the choice is always with you.